It’s really hard when people only see me for my mistakes. That’s what parents of adult children often feel, including the ones with good, healthy relationships.

It’s true that parents need to recognize that although they did their best, sometimes that caused harm. That’s not easy when continuing to be punished and self punishing. I think we all need to recognize flaws but be kinder to ourselves and others.

This can also be applied to other close relationships – siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles, children, friends, etc.

What do you think about extending grace in complicated relationships? What level of healing is needed for yourself and to see in them?

I’m reminded of a saying my mom would say, ‘That’s throwing away the baby with the bathwater.’ Usually preceeded with what are you doing! That reminds me that things are not black and white.

What are your thoughts… my mom has passed… asking for a friend. 😉

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